When a [son] has married without his parents’ knowledge, he should recognize that he is paying a just penalty for his heedless behavior if his wife is unresponsive to him. He did not offer God and his parents the obedience he owed them, and he should not be surprised if he gets his just reward in the form of his wife’s defiance. (Consilium Sept. 1, 1560 As quoted in Sex, Marriage, & Family Life in John Calvin’s Geneva, Vol 1: Courtship, Engagement, & Marriage Eerdmans 2005 pg. 170)