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The Thirteenth Year

Anna Sofia Botkin is a member of the local church where I serve as one of the elders. She is also the co-author of the book: So Much More: The Remarkable Influence of Visionary Daughters on the Kingdom of God. An articulate defender of Biblical patriarchy, Anna Sofia has presented messages of tremendous encouragement concerning femininity, multi-generational vision, honor and noble Christian womanhood to hundreds of young ladies from around the nation. She and her sister Elizabeth are featured speakers at this year’s Vision Forum Father and Daughter Retreat at the Callaway Gardens in Georgia. If you have not yet done so, I recommend that you listen to the message which Anna Sofia and Elizabeth presented at least year’s Father and Daughter Retreat titled Strength and Dignity for Daughters. Many of the young ladies with whom I spoke indicated that this was the most life-changing and encouraging message for daughters they had ever heard.

The following message entitled The Thirteenth Year, was delivered last week at a beautiful, private event presented by one of our San Antonio fathers in whose heart a multi-generational vision has been birthed. The entire evening was dedicated to bless and honor his daughter on her thirteenth birthday. The evening celebration was not so much a “party” as it was a time of holy consecration before the Lord and of vision-casting. Three of the elder young ladies spoke at the event, two of whom were Anna Sofia and Elizabeth, respectively. The evening was not only singular for the tremendous vision which was communicated to the young ladies present, but it was lovely and inspiring in every respect.

Regretfully, reading the meaningful text below does not do justice to the experience of watching Anna Sofia deliver the message, as Beall and I both did. Her poise, inflection, graciousness, and sturdy womanhood was every bit part of the message that the Lord was giving to those young ladies that evening. May God use this Fifth Commandment honoring, Christ-exalting, hope-generating message, and many more, to bless our Christian daughters with a vision of womanhood which is used of God to overcome the poison they are widely receiving today, and to equip them for lives of nobility and virtuous womanhood.

Above: Anna Sofia and Liberty share a special birthday together last year. The two girls wore matching dresses and invited their friends for an afternoon of celebration, speeches and honor for their mothers--the women who most inspired them, loved them and who introduced them to life. Above: Anna Sofia and Liberty share a special birthday together last year. The two girls wore matching dresses and invited their friends for an afternoon of celebration, speeches and honor for their mothers—the women who most inspired them, loved them and who introduced them to life.

The Thirteenth Year

By Anna Sofia Botkin

Most of you girls are embarking on a monumental season in your life: the season of transition from beautiful girlhood to noble womanhood. This is also the season that brings new knowledge of good and evil. It brings a stronger awareness of our “crooked and perverse generation.”

As John Adams put it in a letter to his daughter Abigail when she was approaching her 13th birthday, it is “a time when the understanding opens, and the youth begin to look abroad into the world among whom they are to live.”

Of all the generations you could have been born into, of all the centuries, God chose for you to live in this one. Let me tell you a little bit about the generation that God placed you in.

“There is a generation that curseth their father and doth not bless their mother. There is a generation, oh, how lofty are their eyes! and their eyelids are lifted up.”

This generation is arrogant; it has no respect for its parents, for its heritage, for authority. They are blinded by their pride.

Isaiah 3:12 says, “As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them.”

The fact that we have women ruling in the civil and judicial spheres, and are possibly on the verge of facing the dictates of a female chief executive, shows that America is in an advanced state of apostasy and judgment. And rebellious, out-of-control children are a scourge and a shame to the nation.

The women of our generation have forgotten how to be women, and how to be mothers. Some of the most important lessons we learned about womanhood this year, Sarah, we learned together on the Faith and Freedom tour of Plymouth this Fall. I learned that the current women of America are not just lesser women than their pilgrim mothers they are the perfect opposites of their pilgrim mothers.

Where they used to be strong, now they are weak. Where they used to be models of sturdy virtue, they now are examples of flimsy immorality. Where they used to understand the importance of children and selflessly sacrifice for them, now they murder them in the womb as a sacrifice to their own selfishness. And the majority of Christians nod their heads in approval. This is your generation, and mine.

As evil as this generation is, many 13-year old girls feel an uncanny attraction to it, and a desire to be approved of by it. I know I did. Our generation is out to get us, with their glossy magazines, TV shows - every medium of communication they have - they have used to ensnare 13-year-old girls.

This year you will see a lot of evil. Your parents will continue to protect you, but there are things and facts that you will become aware of just by living in this generation. We’re all tempted to get used to evil, the more we see of it, and be desensitized to it. We can’t hide from evil, and pretend it isn’t there, but when we do see it, we have to see it with the Lord’s eyes This is one of the most important things that my father taught me . Every time we see it, it should be even more despicable to us.

In this stormy generation which will try to shipwreck you, God has given you two wonderful gifts. Two things will help you keep your heart pure and enable you to see evil with the Lord’s eyes:

  • Intimacy with God and His Word and His Law. Immerse yourself in the Scriptures and pray that God will give you purity and wisdom.

  • Intimacy with your parents. A spirit of gratitude and honor for your parents will guard your heart, and could preserve your life. I cannot stress this enough.

Ephesians 6:1 says, Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with a promise: that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”

“Well with you” doesn’t mean you have will everything you want. It means you will have everything you need. It means having complete inner peace, joy, happiness, and the enjoyment of God’s support in whatever you do. It means even when things seem to be going badly, God comforts you and gives you grace. It means being spiritually happy.

Here are some other blessings the Lord promises to send, which are listed throughout the Bible: length of days and long life, spiritual peace, prosperity, happiness, wisdom and knowledge, honor and glory, spiritual safety, spiritual eyesight, and success.

You’ve probably heard many times that you need to “give your heart to your parents” What does it actually mean to give your parents your heart?

The heart, called “the seat of the affections,” is the source of all passions, desires, loves, interests, likes and dislikes, convictions and opinions. Proverbs 23:26 says, “Give me your heart, my son, and let your eyes delight in my ways.”

God wants our hearts and all that they contain to be surrendered to our parents-and ultimately to God - to be molded and directed.

This is not possible unless you talk to your parents and let them know your heart and tell them about everything that you hold dear. This is that year that you need to purpose to communicate more and better with your parents than ever before. Tell them everything. Be an open book.

Making yourself vulnerable in this way requires Trust. You must trust your parents, that they ultimately desire what is best for you, and that they are qualified to lead you and guide you simply because they are your parents chosen by God to raise you.

It also requires Faith Faith that God will lead you through your parents, imperfect though they are. And faith in God’s promised blessings for your obedience.

When your parents have your heart you will truly “delight in their ways” You will love what they love, hate what they hate, and desire their approval and company and even “think their thoughts after them.”

You can learn a lot about seeking God’s will and God’s mind by doing this with your parents in your 13th year.

This is called “seeking after the hearts of your parents” just as King David was “a man after God’s own heart.”

Similarly, your parents hearts should be able to trust in you, as it says in Proverbs 31, “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her...” This means that they will have confidence in your obedience, when they are watching and when they’re not, that you will demonstrate loyalty to them and to every thing they have taught you, in what you speak and do, in public and in private.

“My son, keep your father’s command, and do not forsake the law of your mother. Bind them continually upon your heart; tie them around your neck. When you roam, they will lead you; when you sleep, they will keep you; and when you awake, they will speak with you. For the commandment is a lamp, and the law is a light; reproofs of instruction are the way of life...” Proverbs 6:20-23

It’s especially important that daughters radiate devotion to their parents when they are with their friends. And when it comes to choosing friends, the best advice that I can give you is to gravitate towards the girls that have respectful attitudes towards authority and even reverent attitudes towards their parents and your parents.

In my lifetime I have spoken to a lot of young ladies, and it amazes me how quickly one can tell, sometimes just in one conversation, how much or how little a girl reverences her parents. Some girls drop “innocent” or “affectionate” comments that betray a belittling and dismissive spirit. They might refer to their dad as if he were a ridiculous little brother or speak disparagingly of their mothers’ restrictions.

This is not honor! This is dishonor. Feel free to lovingly correct girls who do this, but please don’t choose them as role models or intimate friends. Attitudes are the quickest things to rub off onto us.

I realize that I am putting a lot of emphasis on the relationship between children and parents. I don’t believe it’s possible to put too much emphasis on a relationship that is ultimately an earthly reflection of the relationship between The Eternal Father and the Eternal Son. The goal of our relationship with our parents is a better relationship with God.

The virtues we learn by being good daughters to our fathers on earth help us in being good daughters to the King, and prepare us for this life and the life to come. Learning to be good ambassadors, to be faithful, to be trusting, and to have a yielded heart with our earthly fathers, will teach us to relate this way to our Heavenly Father.

We need to make the God of our parents our God as well. We can’t forget the purpose, or we’ll start thinking the whole reason we obey our parents and behave ourselves is to impress our parent’s friends and to be “the best kids.” This is one of the dangers of being a second-generation Christian... which I am and you are. The examples in the Bible show that it’s easy for second-generation Christians to lose the vision.

When I was young, I often felt there was nothing left for the second generation to do, except “keep Christianity in the family.” I felt like my parents had already done all the pioneer work. They were both saved out of non-Christian homes, and had to figure out how to build a Christian family from scratch. All the excitement and adventure and discovery was theirs; our job was just to keep from dropping the ball, and keep our children from going back into the world.

Then when I was 13 years old, my family moved to New Zealand, and the seven years I spent there taught me that our family’s Christian warfare has only just begun. Our parents had to fight for the right to raise their children to be soldiers. Now it’s our duty as soldiers to win the war, ours and our descendants’ Everything our parents have done doesn’t give us less to do it gives us more to do. Luke 12:48 says, “.. For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more.”

My father believes that the 21st century will be the Asian century. In your 13th year, you are being given the opportunity to wage war in a leading Asian nation. Korea can be pivotal in God’s plan and you have the rare opportunity to learn about God’s elect in that nation and to bless them by your example as a kingdom-oriented Christian daughter. Please keep in mind your ambassadorial role as these needy people watch your life. You represent America’s providential history, her Western legacy, her home schooling pioneers, your important family, and Jesus Christ himself.

The duty of all second-generation Christians is to stand on their parents’ shoulders and succeed them; to go further and conquer new ground. To make new biblical discoveries, to reach greater heights of theological precision, to root out even more worldliness of thinking and living, to have more obedient Christian families, and to extend Christ’s dominion into every nation. And this will leave plenty for our children to do, and even our great-great-grandchildren.

In the beginning of my speech, I talked about our generation. It is perverse. It is odious to God. He is grieved and offended by it. But God had a purpose in putting us into it. Abigail Adams wrote to her son John Quincy:

These are times in which a genius would wish to live. It is not in the still calm of life, or in the repose of a pacific station, that great characters are formed. The habits of a vigorous mind are formed in contending with difficulties. Great necessities call out great virtues.

As you learn more about our evil world, it’s right that you should be repulsed by it, but it would be wrong for you to be afraid of it. Because one day, Lord willing, your thousands of millions of descendants will possess its gates.

Anna Sofia in Boston, studying the lives of great men and women of the past through whom the Lord brought millions of descendants and birthed a great nation. Anna Sofia in Boston, studying the lives of great men and women of the past through whom the Lord brought millions of descendants and birthed a great nation. 2006 Faith and Freedom Tour.

This copyrighted message was posted on Doug’s Blog with permission of the Botkin family.