
Standing before 2000 wedding guests, this Saturday, Tracy Leininger and David Craven fulfilled a promise that each of them had made to God and to their parents when they were many years younger — they kissed each other.
But this was a special kiss — The kind of kiss you rarely hear about these days. It was a first kiss. And it was the kind of kiss that can only be given between a man and a woman who have never loved another, and whose body, mind and spirit was preserved and prepared only for each other. Yes, this was the first time either David or Tracy had romantically kissed anyone in their entire life.
Most importantly, it was a kiss that brought to completion one covenantal vow, and inaugurated another. Years ago, Tracy had made a pledge to her heavenly Father and His earthly representative, (Tracy’s Dad), she pledged that she would give her daddy her heart, would trust him, and wait for God to send an appropriate suitor. Along the way she would neither give her heart, nor her lips to any man, but the one true man God had chosen to be her mate for life before the beginning of time. David too had purposed to follow a similar narrow path. He would obey God through self-control, honor to parents and a commitment to keep himself pure, never kissing any girl but his one true love on the day that he would pledge to her his troth in marriage.
On March 20, 2004, David and Tracy fulfilled their covenant to the Lord and their parents and entered into another covenant with the Lord and each other.
Defying Stereotypes
In a thousand ways, the bride and groom defied stereotypes: Handsome, athletic, winsome — the couple does not match the typical cynical, wrong-headed pundits’ vision of a mousy, culturally irrelevant product of home education. David was a recognized national home school basketball star with offers to follow the path of many athletes into college. After a brief season at school playing ball on scholarship, he chose to return home, to serve others, to develop skills as a craftsman and entrepreneur. He even served for six months as an intern at the Vision Forum. Similarly, Tracy honored her father by remaining under his roof and protection, (with a brief season at college), and advanced his vision through the publication of many glorious and God-honoring children’s books. It is no exaggeration that Tracy — while remaining in submission to and honoring her father — has, through her accomplishments as an author, influenced tens of thousands of young ladies to love Christ more. In her own community, she has touched the lives of many young girls by teaching them etiquette, literature, history, and gourmet cooking skills. (The Vision Forum Beautiful Girlhood Collection is built around Tracy’s historical fiction books — click here to see them.)
A Lifetime of Covenantal Relationships
But to my way of thinking, there is something else which is so wonderful, so singular that it gives a rich deeper meaning to the covenantal nature of this marriage:
The marriage of David and Tracy was conceived in a lifetime of deep, rich, meaningful Christian relationships between families, and within the community of believers that live here in San Antonio. In fact, it is fair to say that the marriage of David and Tracy is “beautifully obvious” — i.e. it was not only meant to be (in the Divine sense), but the “rightness” of this union is obvious to the many hundreds of like-minded Christians who watched them grow up together.
For more than two decades their lives have paralleled, from the infancy of David and Tracy, both sets of parents have been friends with a similar vision before the Lord. The relationship of the parents set the stage for David and Tracy to grow up in the same Christian community with the same Christian friends, enjoying many of the same Christian experiences. A brief look at the (large) contingent of grooms and bridesmaids in the wedding party is also revealing. Many were home educators who made the very same commitments, had similar blessed relationships between the families, and who, like David and Tracy, never kissed another before stepping up to the marriage altar.
How Did All of This Come To Pass?
The short and truthful answer is — “by the mercy and grace of God.” David, Tracy, and their parents, are humble to the point of frustrating a writer/preacher like myself, who is passionate about communicating to a hurting world the simple fact that God’s ways work! They are quick to deflect all praise to the Lord, to list their many failings and shortcomings, and confess their own amazement over the goodness of God.
This being said, the longer answer to the question of “how did this all come to pass?” is that God blessed the vision of a handful of earnest parents — the founders of the San Antonio home schooling community (specifically, I refer to the FEAST organization) — who purposed to honor the Lord and support the Church of Jesus Christ by building a community of life and love where parents invested tremendous amounts of time in the discipleship of their children, and embraced the mission of returning to the “old paths,” the biblical paths of a life separated unto the Lord.
It took a lot of love, a lot of patience, and a lot of prayers to build a true sense of Christian community. Such a mission is not for the faint of heart. Neither can one simply move into a community and all-of-a-sudden receive the benefits of the labor and commitments of others. It takes much time, ferocious loyalty, quiet patience, and a lot of love. It takes a commitment to covenantal relationships within families, within churches, even between friends. Most of all it takes the mercy of God blessing the vision of parents who will give up a life of selfishness to embrace a life in which every day is committed to laboring in the vineyard of the souls of their children.
God blessed fathers like Jim Leininger who most nights for twenty five years prayed with and kissed his daughter before bed, who gave her vision and opportunity, all-the-while encouraging her to be virtuous, feminine and separated unto the Lord. God blessed mothers like Cecelia Leininger, who was not content to accept the “reality” the secular world would foist upon her family, and instead honored her husband by building a distinctively Christian culture for her household in which her children could thrive on the Lord Jesus. God blessed prayer-warrior mothers like Cathy Craven who instilled a passion for truth into her son, and He blessed the manly, quiet leadership of Mayor Jim Craven whose ever-present twinkle in his eye points to the deep gratitude for others and hunger for truth which are some of his defining qualities.
I am reminded of the story of two women at the check-out line of the grocery story. Observing the remarkable obedience and sweet spirit of the one woman’s children, the other woman turns and says:
“Boy, I would give my life for such children.”
To which the other replies:
“That is exactly what I did.”
Bottom line: It is one thing to dream great dreams for God; it is another to be willing to pay the price to see such dreams become realities.
Watching Purity
The sweetest moment of the wedding came after the vows, but before the kiss. As the officiating minister I had the best seat in the house to observe this precious moment. After the couple had said their vows, they lit a candle and returned to me where they kneeled at a prayer bench. It was a sacred moment of sheer purity and joy as the couple quietly whispered to each other for the first time as man and wife, and ever so-quietly prayed for each other. It is moments like these that refresh my soul and remind me why we are in the battle for the family. Purity is so precious it must be preserved and cultivated.
Closing Thoughts
In a world of covenant breaking parents and children, of churches that actually encourage such bad behavior, of president’s who commit adultery in the White House, and of tens of millions who annually experience the pattern of successive heartbreaks and infidelity due to the training fostered by the dating life style, the contrast between the secular vision for romance and the biblical approach taken by David and Tracy is staggering. It is my firm conviction that the track record this couple brings with them into marriage is so bright, so positive, and so victorious, that with God’s grace, their commitment to covenant will be ever present throughout their life.
I conclude with a simple thought: With this beautiful kiss our entire community grew stronger. Our children were given an example to encourage them, (Yes, obedience does pay off, patience in Christ is a noble virtue with rich rewards), our children were given a pattern to follow. Because of David and Tracy and the many other couples in our community who have never even kissed until their wedding day, our children are growing up with the glorious expectation that virtue and holiness are expected of Christians, that such behavior is normative, and that covenant breaking is simply not acceptable. In a world where negative peer pressure is often overwhelming for Christians, such marriage success stories help create positive peer pressure to obey the Lord.
Jim and Cecelia, Jim and Cathy — thank you for humbly and quietly helping to build a community in which biblical parenthood is welcomed with open arms. Thank all of you for walking alone. Thank you for the many knocks and criticisms you took over the years by those who simply could not understand. David and Tracy, by your example to my children, you have made it easier for me to be a father. From the bottom of my heart I thank you.
The angels in heaven rejoice, and so do we. One pure man has married one pure woman, and together they have vowed to keep covenant with each other and to perpetuate a multi-generational legacy of faithfulness. Today the world is a better place.
View David and Tracy’s Website
God-willing, I will post another article on the single greatest wedding reception I have ever witnessed in my life. It was great, not because it was big and wonderful, (which it certainly was), but because those present knew it was the closest we would probably experience on this earth to a picture of the marriage supper of the Lamb. The problem is that it was so epistemologically self-conscious, so spectacular and so glorious, that I am genuinely reluctant to even attempt to put into words what we experienced. I wonder if my readers will believe me. In the meantime, please take a moment and visit the wonderful website of David and Tracy at LeiningerCravenWedding.com
Also, for those of you who are wondering why this blog is titled “Part II,” I invite you to read my article from three years ago of a similar name. You can view it on my newsletter page.
Images from the Wedding of David and Tracy:

Jubilee and Liberty (opposite ends) join their friends in sharing the honor of serving as flower girls.

Jim Craven (father of the groom) with his daughter Becca (one of the bridesmaids). The Craven family are precious, Christ-loving believers who have been a special part of our life for more than a decade. Cathy, Jim’s wife, has been present in our home for the birth of Faith, Honor and Providence. She would sit in the foyer and pray throughout the birth, then bless us with her help once the baby had arrived. What true blue friends!

Noelle Goforth (mother of Baby William, bestest buddy to the bride and daughter of Richard “Little Bear” Wheeler) reads to the girls while they all take turns getting their hair “foofified” (that’s what I call it) for the wedding. It seems like just yesterday that Noelle and her husband Joshua (former graphic designer for Vision Forum) walked down the isle. read more about their wedding in my article Never Been Kissed: A Home School Love Story.

The bridesmaids and flower girls gather for a picture.

After the wedding, family and guests take shuttles to the wedding feast to be held at the home of the parents of the bride.

Joshua and Justice Phillips help their daddy to prepare for his role officiating in the wedding.

After the wedding, the parents and grandmother of the bride take a few moments to visit with their guest and discuss classical music with former NBA Basketball All-Star for the San Antonio Spurs, David Robinson.

One of the most beautiful girls at the wedding takes a moment from the rigors of being a flower girl to let her proud papa capture her on digital film.

Tracy was the picture of peace and happiness on her wedding day. having known her husband since they were both in diapers, the two entered marriage with a tremendous assurance of the character of the other.

Just minutes after I pronounced them “husband and wife” and they took their first kiss.

Beall and Providence visit with long-time Phillips family friend Ladonna Day (a bridesmaid). Ladonna is another San Antonio gal who followed the path of purity and has enjoyed not only the blessing of God on a beautiful marriage, but is enjoying being a new mother.
Another Parting Shot
The wedding included many notables from the state of Texas, including a justice from the Texas Supreme Court. A friend of mine who was sitting next to the Supreme Court Justice reported that the high ranking judge turned to him after my charge to the bride and groom and he said:
“I guess that preacher won’t be performing any homosexual weddings.”
Good Guess!